Thursday, 23 July 2015

Reflective Summer

As we are well into the summer holidays now I am still amazed at the year Nishka and I have had. There have been highs and lows,darkness and light. In reflection the following poem came to me during a bus journey about a week ago;

We Got Through!

Got through the year,
not without a tear.
Outwardly a smile,
inside a trial.

Would the next phone call
lead to a fall?
Trying to keep track
watching my back.

Digging in the knife,
cutting into life.
Constant pacing
heart,mind,body racing.

Amongst the low,
a lot to show.
Moments of pride,
no need to hide.

My little angel growing
inner goodness showing.
Refusal to demise
sparkle in the eyes.

With every ounce of mettle
fighting each battle.
Not giving in,
when luck wore thin.

Sunday, 12 July 2015

Race of Spirit

Last  weekend along with three other lovely ladies I completed the Race for Life and raised money for a very worthwhile charity. I’m so happy I made it to the 10K finishing line in a total of one hour and thirty eight minutes. Taking part in this event has given me so much on many levels. As I said in the previous post I feel inspired to know survivors of the illness and it is with this pride I took part in the event.

I have become a lot fitter from taking part in the Race for Life and had fun along the way. The last seven years took its toll on my own health and I feel by training for an event like this it has kick started a healthy fitness regime that I intend to maintain even though the race is over. If anyone is struggling for motivation to get fit and trying to juggle it with other commitments I strongly feel training for a charitable event is the way to go. It actually forces you to go for that run and not just talk about it. I found myself fitting training in around school runs for example. It also helped that while I was training for Race for Life Nishka was also preparing for her Taekwondo grading something which we do together.

On a social level I have also gained a lot from race for life with the new friends I have made. iIhave learnt a lot about people and the value of friendships and trust. It may sound like a cliche but been around other people can make you look at yourself in a different way. It makes you think of how you could improve your own life or how your own problems are nothing compared to someone else's.

I would like to round off my post by thanking my family who supported me throughout this event, my parents were at the finishing line taking pictures. Nishka even trained with us and my siblings and brother in law were generous with donations and helping me to promote the event. I know I have already mentioned the ladies I trained with but I cannot say it enough about the journey I have been on and the new people that have come into my life. I have kind of been on a very spiritual journey.

Saturday, 4 July 2015

Time for The Big Race!!!!

During the long gap I had from blogging I mentioned that I have been keeping very busy. Amongst the books and usual mummy mania etc I have also been training for the Race for Life which I will be taking part in this Sunday 5th July at Victoria Park Leicester at 2pm.

Cancer Research is a charity I strongly believe in and feel proud to be supporting the event. However the cancer victims I know are actually survivors of the illness and still live to tell the tale which I find very inspiring and it gives hope.

I have an aunt who fought the disease and survived, she proved to be stronger than the cancer itself. This same strength was passed onto me in my dark times and I consider the women I know as true role models, by not giving up. The mentality they took was basically to tell the cancer to **** off.  I hope anyone reading this post will find this very heartening.

At the weekend I plan to do 10K combination of jogging and walking with some lovely ladies who I have met on this journey. Please show your support for this event by making a donation at

Friday, 3 July 2015

A strike of knowledge!!!

In the last couple of posts I discussed my new book which looks at bullying amongst many other adolescent issues. My own childhood has shaped how I tackle issues as a mother. Whether a child attends a private school or state school, regardless of the area bullying is inevitable, which is why I am arming Nishka with some survival tools.

Two years ago Nishka and I took up the Korean Martial Art Taekwondo. At the weekend Nishka got promoted to yellow tag which I am really proud of, she worked hard and showed focus. However I always drum it into Nishka that Taekwondo is about more than progressing through the belts. When dealing with a bully it may not always be necessary to physically fight back but knowledge is power.

Having the knowledge can put someone in a different mindset where they can even stand differently and feel in better control of a situation. I strongly advocate children learning Martial Arts from a young age. I took up Karate at the age of fourteen and am doing Taekwondo now and I can also say having this knowledge helped me overcome a lot of problems. As one progresses through belts in Taekwondo we do something called "breaking" which involves smashing a hard board barefooted. I have done this myself a few times and it makes me think if I can smash a board I can do anything.

The years spent at primary and secondary school lay foundations for life and issues such as low self esteem and self worth can leave scars for life. This is why I give out a strong message of taking up some sort of martial arts from a young age. Another message I would like to give in this post is quoting a poem in my latest book "a bully is a coward." Practising martial arts gives someone the courage to accomplish anything.