Wednesday, 31 December 2014

The 2014 I created.

With just a few hours to go till we say goodbye to 2014 I have bitter sweet memories of this year. It has certainly been an eventful year especially in terms of my personal life. Many events sparked off my best creative work, the highlight being the publication of my first self help book The Divorce Toolbox.

On the creative front it has been a very productive year where I pushed the boundaries further on the literary front.  I did a total of eight performances this year including Indian Summer and more recently the Human Rights in Art and Film festival. Not all my performances were spoken word. I stuck to my news years resolution of taking up music again when I gave a semi classical vocal performance in October for an Assamese event. My contribution to the Phoenix Writers Group anthology led to me anchoring the launch event back in October.

At many of these events existing publications were well received with the books I sold. I mentioned Divorce Toolbox earlier, this book also lead to me being invited to give a radio interview in November.

My creative endeavours have not just involved writing and music but also a business venture and developing new skills and hobbies. This is the year I planted seeds of business aspirations when I started working as an Ambassador for Tropic Skincare which has also improved my ongoing skin conditions.

I am not that far from reaching the big 4 0 which like a lot of people has made me put together a bucket list, there are two things I can certainly  tick off. I learnt  how to use a sewing machine when I attended an all day sewing workshop back in May and made a cushion. Something I intend to do more of in 2015.

Last year to support Nishka  I took up the Martial Art Taekwondo, something which I have been meaning to do for  while, following my teenage half baked Karate beginnings. My teacher felt i was doing so well that I got put forward for my first grading, which got me promoted to yellow tag in June. My first physical exam in nearly twenty years.

Phew that's quite a lot actually this really has been a confidence restoring exercise. This is the time of year when people reflect on the twelve months gone and often feel disheartened. If you actually sit down and  reflect you will find you have achieved more than you think. A majority of my time got spent on very soul destroying and often mundane challenges that actually made me feel at times drained of creative impulses. Writing this post has actually made me realise my own strength of character. The turbulence in my personal life did not actually kill off my dreams, maybe without knowing it a fire got sparked off in me to do better.

Just to wish all my readers lots of light and positivity to make your dreams come to true in 2015. Do not let anybody stand in your, I certainly haven't. This is the year when i had strips torn off me but nobody has been able to break me. Let your problems make you not break you. Happy new year.

Tuesday, 30 December 2014

My box of tools.

My followers know about the legal battle i have been going through in the last six and a half  years. This is how my blog started. I decided to take it a step further and publish a book about my experiences, titled The Divorce  Toolbox- Surviving the courts, CAFCASS and Social Services while leading a normal life.  I decided to take my experience and use it to help others. My own case has made me so experienced that people now turn to me for advice.  My book is a self help book that offers assistance on how to deal with a legal battle and have a normal life. In these situations people feel helpless and like they do not have rights. The authorities come into their lives and intrude and effectively dictate their lives. My book gives practical solutions on how people can get round these problems. We have more rights than we think and we are not inferior to these people. Something which prompted me to write this book is how people do not even realise they can make a complaint against an organisation like CAFCASS. These people are not god and keep making mistakes at the expense of children. After seeing the experiences of some of my friends and the various activist groups I follow I felt I needed to do something to help people like me.

I have split the book into sections for people want to read it from cover to cover or just read the relevant sections.Many people for example do not know how to make a complaint about CAFCASS. In my book there is a whole section covering this, based on my own experiences. Some people may still be unsure about whether to end their marriage or not and worried about financial implications. Again the beginning of the book covers this.

I do not want people to suffer in silence and be bullied by the system. Use my book to take control of your life and give your children a better future. It is available on amazon kindle and print book format.   Check it out at